The advice was to focus on the components of what makes activities / goals / etc. enjoyable.
Instead of thinking of THE job or THE girlfriend that was excellent, focusing on the basic components (criteria) of the experience gives us much greater flexibility and opportunity.
Instead of thinking of THE-one-job-in-the-world that was perfect, it is much smarter and effective to think of the criteria that you enjoyed.
For example, it may be that the job was in a nice high rise building, with friendly coworkers, and high pay.
In theory, getting a job with the same criteria will indeed lead to the same levels of satisfaction.
In practice, no two experiences are identical. Paradoxically, all components of an experience are replica table.
In other words, let's say that your first job had the following criteria:
-Nice high rise building
-Friendly coworkers
-High pay
-Flexible work hours
etc.
The odds of getting a job with exactly the same criteria are quite slim, however, getting a job with the most important criteria intact is simple, using the right approach.
Focusing and obsessing on one experience is neither productive nor healthy. When we become compulsive (click here) about an experience we blind ourselves from the individual components that make it enjoyable.
Paradoxically, the more we obsess about the event the less likely we are to replicate and enhance the desired experience.
A mind that is compulsive is trapped, afraid, and regretful.. three un-resourceful state-of-minds.
A mind that is flexible, smart, and creative, is a mind that is in a position to get what it wants.
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